A Grandparent's Dilemma: Knowing Your Place
Grandma Moses Knowses About Minding Her Business!
It is true what they say. Grandchildren are the jewels in our crowns as parents.
While my few short years as a grandmother have brought far more blessings than heartaches, there have nonetheless been a few challenges, the greatest of which has been figuring out when I can continue the ever so fleeting remnant of my role as a parent and offer advice, and when I must remain unconditionally silent.
Is there even ever a situation that could compel my loving and gentle intrusion?
I always believed (or thought I believed) that parents had the inalienable right to raise their children as they saw fit, without the interference from others, especially well-meaning in-laws. After all, there are valuable lessons to be learned from making mistakes, and parents have that right, and blessing, too.
But some things have happened that have caused me to question that belief. Having said that, I must confess that I have shared privately with my daughter my concern that the discipline they are establishing with their 3 year-old daughter may be too harsh, not physically, but I think maybe emotionally.
My daughter emphatically told me that I have crossed the line, that this is none of my business, and that if I continue to express my concerns, they will restrict my access to my grandchildren. I cannot bear the thought of that!